Best friend who is a guy

But for whatever reason, I've typically also had more close male friends than the average lady. When you're a woman with a male best friend, people think that you're up to something. They can't quite agree on what it is — are you trying to get laid? Trying to inflate your ego by being the " cool girl "? Trying to do both at the same time? And even if all that judgment doesn't bother you personally, you still have to deal with the weird hang-ups of your other friends, your family, and even science.

There are new psychological studies conducted seemingly every year devoted to picking apart the extremely pressing question of whether men and women can be friends, even though they never seem to come to any concrete answers. Over the course of two years , Scientific American covered one study that claimed that men and women can't be friends because men are disgusting horn-dog monsters, and one study that showed that men and women can be friends.

And yes, sometimes, male BFFs do end up becoming something more. But often times, they don't. And no matter what happens, women with male best friends aren't pulling some kind of sexual long con. I'm not saying we deserve a medal for dealing with the pressure of everyone's suspicions and expectations and still managing to maintain kick-ass friendships in the process, but Here are 34 things only we women with male best friends truly understand.

Here are 14 reasons why a good boy friend beats having a boyfriend: He's in it for the long haul. Oh yeah, that's right: forever. By the same token, neither do you. This forces you guys to work things out.

He'll honestly tell you what that dress looks like on you. You can order whatever you want at dinner. This leaves me with the freedom to devour my New York Strip with a clear conscience. You can be disgusting in front of him. He genuinely likes you for your awesome personality. It's not your awesome rack or fantastic smile that interests him, it's just you.

You don't have to force anything. There's no need to impress him with a feigned interest in the weird music you hate. No need to engage in the world's dumbest texting conversations. You don't have to worry about annoying him. However, what people get confused about is the context that it's being used in. Are you being overprotective since you're a friend that genuinely cares and wants the best for your friend, or are you overprotective because of something else?

There's a fine line between being overprotective as a friend, and overprotective as something else. The context of how being protective is being used just really depends on the people involved in the friendship. I hate admitting this because it is my worst flaw in the friendship, but I would definitely say I am the overprotective one. I hate seeing my best friend get hurt, especially if he's gotten hurt multiple times.

It really hurts me when he comes to me feeling hopeless and sad. I feel like I'm the one picking up the pieces, just so something better comes along. What I always fear is that he'll get hurt again. I try my best to be supportive, but on the inside it's so hard to keep my cool and let it go. Sometimes, you have to let the ones you love get hurt in order for them to understand why they went through that.

I know that he'll become a better person because of what he went through. With every obstacle and challenge, there's triumph. Although my heart aches when he's hurt, I know I'll be happier knowing he'll come out stronger. It's very normal to develop feelings of jealousy, and it's bound to happen sooner or later.

When you become really close to your best friend, you can't help but be overprotective. At times, you can misinterpret feelings of jealousy with being protective.

You feel like you're doing the right thing by being protective, but that's not what's really happening. You then start to realize the signs of jealousy. I know most girls say that they're totally fine if their guy friend has other friends who are girls, but really?

I mean who hasn't been jealous when they see their guy best friend hanging out with other girls. At the end of the day, we all just want to feel like we're actually being valued in our friendships with guys. This is kind of hard too when you see another girl who isn't in your friend group hanging out with him. The same goes for guys, sometimes they believe that they're being protective when they don't want to admit that they might be feeling jealous.

It's normal to feel this way, and it's nothing to be worried about. Small jealousy feelings and thoughts are what make a girl-guy friendship different. However, if it does continue, it would probably be best to talk it out with your friend. It's not good to keep feelings hidden, especially in a friendship. Guy: Rose hangs out with Victor way too much to not like him.

Girl:I talk to Rose all the time, she says that he's just her guy best friend. She has no feelings for him whatsoever. That guy who is always there for you. You guys love each other but can't admit it. You claim you are just friends.